Posted by Anonymous on 2011/12/18 under Uncategorized Hi, this is the first time I ever write anything on here. My name is Megan and I’m 26 years old and already thinking about getting divorced. My husband of 4 years (who I have been with for the last 10 years) cheated on me. He had an affair behing my back for a month and then when I found out he decided to stay with her for another 3 months. He came back wanting to be together about a month ago and I have been trying to figure out if it can work. The problem is I keep finding out that he still has contact with her and has seen her. He is still doing this to me, but I feel powerless to escape it. I’m not even sure if I still love him, but I seem incapable of leaving. I want more out of life than a husband who always hurts me. I feel so frustrated.
I believe that once the trust has been broken that it’s almost impossible to get it back again, most of the time anyway. I may only be 15 going on 16, and you probably are thinking, “Oh what she know about relationships and life?” Well, I know enough to tell you that if you think that this marrige has at least a tiny bit of hope, you should fight for it. Because the worst feeling after heartache and loneliness is regret, and I think that, like I said, if your marriage has at least some hope then get all the help you can. There are counselors that specialize in marriages. Maybe that could help. Or perhaps you need some more communication in your relationship, or something else I don’t know. If you think there’s no hope for your relationship then maybe he just wasn’t meant to be… After all, it’s your decision, so I was suggesting what you could do. Good luck!