I am engaged, but very nervous. I am getting married this summer. And I am head over heels in love with this man, but sometimes I wonder if I am ready. I am 20 years old, and I wonder if that is too young. I hear all these stories that marriage can break up a good bond because of all the stress. I don’t know who else to talk to. I cannot talk to my husband about this stuff. He is excited. My entire family is excited. But I feel like I never got the chance to really live. This man I am marrying has been my only boyfriend. We met in high school and were crazy in love and just stayed together I suppose. We still have a spark, but nothing like it used to be. I feel like I never got the chance to be silly and live on my own and have one night stands. And this is terrible to say, but I wish I did. Right after high school my boyfriend and I rented an apartment and then, later down the line, he asked me to be his wife. Something every one knew was going to happen. I feel so trapped. I do love him. But I also want adventure.
Well, I understand what you mean…I am six years younger than you but I know what you mean. I think it’s logical to want to live an adventure, one night-stand and all that. But I think that you want these things just because you hear about them or see them in movies. But think about what you said. You love him, he loves you and you have a good relationship since high school! Many girls dream about that. A true love, someone who could really rely on. But if you feel like there isn’t a spark and that you ‘re not ready for a wedding you should really talk about this with him. Tell him you don’t want to marry him now. Tell him to wait. And forget your parents, your friends and him. It’s your life! At the end they will understand! But, don’t break up with him. Stay with him and see how things are going. If you still feel that there is no spark and that you wouldn’t ,for example, get jealous if you saw him with another girl, then yes break up with him. Why? Because then he just isn’t the right guy for you to stay with. This isn’t about what you were feeling, this is about what you feel now and your life!