Posted by Anonymous on 2015/05/26 under Uncategorized I hope someone reads this because i need any advice i can get. So im 21 years old, boy, and ive been sexually active since i was 17, but i have never came with a woman. I had a terrible first experience with sex when i was 17, with some slut when we were very drunk in a park, and i couldnt get it up, so basically we didnt have sex. Up to this point I had had a few handjobs before but never came. Then i got a gf when i was 18 who I really really liked, but we never really alot of chances. We first had sex when we were drunk after a night out and this time i coukd get it up, but it wouldnt stay up. We then had sex sober(my first time sober) and it was going OK until she said i needed to stop because i was hurting her( i was her first) but even at this i never really felt like i was going to come, it didnt feel amazing like people say it is, and i was really into this girl. We then broke up a few months later. I then moved to university and started having sex with random girls after nights out, sometimes i could get it up , sometimes not, but even if i did i never came, it sort of felt numb. I had sex a few times the morning after when im a bit more sober, but i get this strong rush of anxiety and fear and i dont know why, like i feel overwhlemed by whats happening. It seems that i need the alcohal for confidence but that obviously dosent help the whole no cuming thing. Id say to date ive had sex with about 12 different girls, some multiple times, 90% after drinking, and ive never came. Im starting to really worry and the more it goes on like this the more scared i become of sex. Its stopping me from going to meet girls sober because i think oh s*** what if we go to have sex and i cant get it up? ive literally been avoiding sex. and i dont know what to do. what dosent help is im really into this girl at the minute and i keep avoiding meeting her because im scared, shes just out of a six year relationship and obviously veryu experienced, i dont want to tell hershe might think its weird plys i dont know if i can trust her. HELPPP.