Posted by Anonymous on 2015/06/03 under Kids My 14 year old daughter stopped listening to me a few months ago, ( last December, to be precise ) and I’ve noticed some drugs and an empty bottle of alcohol under her bed, which I was devastated at spotting. I decided not to say anything even though I’ve been burning inside, but before I even got the chance to sit her down and talk to her, I realised that it was too late for her to listen. A week ago, her ‘friend’ came over to ‘have a sleepover’ which I wasn’t too pleased at. For you to know, the friend was a male, so I did get a bit suspicious. But before I could tuck them in, like I always used to do with my daughter, I spotted them having sex there and then! I was paranoid, but I couldn’t interrupt them. I was absolutely speechless. Yes, my daughter has been a bad girl lately but I never expected her to do something like that without permission. I’m starting to think that she wants me to know that I have nothing to do with her anymore, and that I can’t boss her around anymore because she left her door wide open when they made out. Of course, I couldn’t say anything to her. And she wouldn’t say anything to me, as usual. But this morning, when I asked her about what she was up to, my own daughter threw her glass of fresh orange juice on the floor and walked out the door! What is going on with her? She hasn’t acted like this in ages and I just thought we were making up! When she was 12, she was the best daughter I’d ever imagined, and I thought it would stay that way. Not until her father and I divorced last year. Everything changed. My daughter Kayla stopped talking to me all at once. Now she’s influencing her little 10 year old sister Maggie, who has started to disrespect me and blame me for divorcing her father. Now both my girls have thrown me out of their hearts and no one else is there to blame but me. Maybe I haven’t raised them the right way? I don’t know. All of our lives are all messed up. And I don’t know what Kayla will do with her baby. Please help me or give me advice on what to say to my daughters. I can’t sit them down to have a single decent talk with them! Thanks,
Rosa
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Oh, I have experienced those as you have with my daughter. Only she was a year younger. At the moment, she’s 16, off at college. Yes, we’ve finally made up after the disaster, so I think I can help you. Let your daughter know that you are in charge, because discipline is needed to be taught at a young age. But scolding will make her run away. My step daughter ran away as well. So approach Kayla softly. Try to compliment her boyfriend, even though it’s not what you feel. Maybe Kayla will tell you more things about him and that’ll strike up a conversation. It’ll improve your relationship as well. There was also a lady called Moonlight who helped me with my daughter ( she’s a kid expert ) so the chances are that she can help you, too. Contact <a href="mailto:[email protected]" >[email protected]
Hope this helps!
Elenor xx
You shouldn’t have messed your life up in first place, my dear. I’m 45 now, a mother of three boys, two run away girls and one little girl. And I’ve experienced more that you have ever done. It’s your fault for letting your two daughters slip away like that. Or maybe you shouldn’t have divorced your ex.
How could u say that 2 a mother who’s suffering? Ur stupid urself. If u wanted 2 say something nice, say that. Don’t go around posting mean comments Jacky Alan.
Old women, go get a life. I had sex with a 14 yr old b**** but she’s dead now cuz of drugs. So yeah, that’s the end of my life. HAAHHAAHAHAHAHAHAHAH
Don’t call women b****es. Ur more of a b**** than us, u HORE. So shut ur mouth! You have no right to comment like that. And ur meant to go to jail for harassing a 14 yr old girl.
Oh shut up u b****. I can call u what the f*** I want to, u b****. Who r u to talk to me like that? Ur a f***ing a****** so shut up before any s***ty words can come out of ur dirty mouth. Don’t call me a HORE u b****y s***.
Maybe it’s you that need a life…..ever thought of that??
I’m 15 so maybe u should talk to ur daughter nicely and say that her bf seems nice and u should make future plans with him. Then she might be nicer 2 u and u guys can make up. But don’t mention anything about the sex part tho.
Some really messed up ppl on this site too after reading these ridiculous comments!
Damn! People are messed up! I have 6 sisters and basically they all turned up okay except for like one. They all ran away from home and messed up most of their lives because they left without much and a baby in their stomachs. Some married early and divorced quite often. When you are the youngest, you tend to either keep the mistakes shown to you or change them. Please don’t scold your daughter. One of the most annoying things a parents can do is lecture a teenager. I still hate it to this day but HEY! What can you do is say the things on your mind and if she runs away, you tried your best right!? Say the things that make you feel relieved and say it in the tone of “I still love you but sweetie, you are messed up child of mine. We need to figure out this together if we have problems in this household.” She probably won’t care unless you take action and keep motivation to help your daughter until she can’t be helped no more. Also she shouldn’t even be allowed to be with that boy anymore. Take charge. Your the mom.