Posted by Anonymous on 2015/05/05 under Uncategorized My dad is ruining my relationship with a guy I really love … I may be a teenager but I find it annoying , but I honestly think my boyfriend is the one …ik u don’t believe me but I believe that I love my boyfriend a lot…. who I told my boyfriend that my dad didn’t like the idea of me dating and my boyfriend goes crazy… he’s telling me he needs to break up because he has respect for my dad and honestly IDC , I love him and I don’t want him to leave …. but then every time he saw me in school he walked away from me or turned away … his mom got into a fight with him earlier and he hasn’t slept so its messing up his track … my friend had to talk to my boyfriend to talk to me directly … at first he didn’t say anything just kissed me and then we talked and he told me that he didn’t want to break up . But on snap chat he honestly placed a picture that stated he was single again …. I mean everything thing is fine now he placed a pic and video of us hanging out and kissing and such …. but like idk , his temper and feelings could change
Hey! I think that you should talk to your dad. You should tell him that him not approving won’t change your feeling for your boyfriend and that him not letting you date him will just make those feelings grow stronger. He was once a teenager. He has to relate in someway. and even though you are a teenager you could have already found the one but if things start to look back remember that you’re still a teenager… You can still meet him. Feel free to e-mail me if you need anything else!
I would definitely talk to your boyfriend too.
While it is great that he respects your dad so much, he did 1) end the relationship without trying to fight for your dad’s respect, and 2) end it without really acknowledging you in the situation.
I mean, I’m not overly familiar with breakups, but he seemed to take a rather “d***” route in doing so.
Additionally, posting about his “single” status so soon to snapchat–it indicates a willingness to potentially “move on” quickly, rather than work on issues within a relationship.
I don’t say that in disrespect to you or your boyfriend, there are just things that both of you need to think and talk about–such as whether you guys are prepared to fight for your relationship or not, and whether you are both fully committed to one another.
From your lack of information, I’m assuming your dad did not make a huge deal out of you and your boyfriend’s relationship. It doesn’t sound like he started a shouting match, was throwing things, or was trying to punch your boyfriend–he, just like any father with a teenage daughter, is probably just uncomfortable because he knows relationships lead to high-level emotions (both good and bad) and sex (which can lead to pregnancies and STI’s — please be safe and go to planned parenthood).
Again, I’m not saying anything to try and throw a wrench in your relationship as I do believe high school relationships can last.
(TLDR: I am a product of one myself–my mother met my father when she was 15 and began dating him when she was 16. She will be 54 this year and she and my father are still happily married.)
I wish you all (you, boyfriend, father) good luck! <3