Posted by Anonymous on 2014/05/10 under Friends Things are totally complicated in my life. I am an average girl. I used to be good in studies. Not now. I dont look very beautiful. So I dont get a lot of the guys’ attention. My name is quite weird. I have a best friend. We have been best friends since 1st grade. She is so beautiful and sweet. And she has the most wanted guy as her boyfriend. All the guys whom i have been even a little attracted are running after her. She just ignores them and they still dont understand. She is tired of the over-attention. And I have never even got a bit of that. The only guy I have been interested in.. Gives me mixed signals. I just am so messed up. And her stories about what all did the cute guys of our class tell her about her beauty are not helping. I like her… She has always been there for me. But right now i am going through so much depression and insecurities, and she is not getting it. We share each and every feeling with each other but this thing i just cant tell her. Because she has never been insecure for such small reasons. She has too much to worry about. But there is no one whom i can say this. They’ll think i am a fool. But i just am so tired of listening the compliments given to her. And just wishing that even someone would compliment me someday. She is my best friend and i really dont want to compare ourselves. I just feel so bad about thinking this way. Where am i supposed to go with such a complicated head..
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If she is your best friend as you are saying, you should tell her how you feel about all this, and that will be moment of truth… If she really is your best friend she will accept it and support you and make you feel better, she would stop talking about the guys that compliment her and she should even try and introduce one of those cute guys to you, maybe something will click.
another thing is that everyone is different, maybe your time is still not here, maybe you are being saved all the trouble of getting a guy that isn’t who he seems to be. just enjoy life, open new doors to success, focus on your studies and go out, have fun, enjoy life as single as much as you can, you will have plenty of time to be committed to someone in the future.
about the mixed signals guy, why don’t you ask someone you trust about him? maybe they can provide you with information about his feelings towards you, or just go and ask him out for coffee or study buddy.
and remember not everything book with a pretty cover is enjoyable to read…
sometimes you are just blinded by how people don’t think about you while you are being surrounded by people who want to be with you.
Yes, just like the other answerer suggested, I would support you to talk with your best friend. Until you talk and tell the other person, she might not realise your perspective. I hope after your talk, your friend will be more sensitive in the way she talks about relationship stuff so you will get less hurt. Another thing that would help you in this situation is to work on your own self-confidence. Please do remember everyone has her strengths and weaknesses. If we only look at our weakness and other people’s strength, we would feel miserable all the time. Please affirm yourself by remembering your strengths and do things to further glorify those strengths. In that way, you’ll feel less insecure about weaknesses. As to the boy with mixed signals, not meaning to be mean but speaking from years of experience, usually guys with mixed signals are not sincere. Do be careful please. I hope you’ll feel better soon. Take care.