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Posted by Anonymous on 2013/07/31 under Uncategorized

So ever since i started dating my now husband my family has caused nothing bur problems…Imature problems that children would come up with i would describe them all to you but this post would be super long and no one would want to read it so i will just list them below

1)4th of july husband bought fireworks for everyone…Boy cousin wouldent share, Husband then told him he cant use them if he dosent share, Cousin ran off told his dad, Husband got threatened by my uncle saying if he ever stepped foor in his yard he would kill him

2)Female cousin came to house at 8am, Husband answer door cracks open cause he is only wearing boxers, Says hang on ill get her, Gently shuts door, Female cousin goes running off to dad saying husband slammed the door in her face..

3) Grandmothers birthday at local resturant, Aunt and female cousin don’t show up, Uncle gets in fight with my husband at resturant swearing at him, Threatening him for calling his daughter a liar about having the door slammed in her face, Banned from uncles house for three years…No christmas for me…made me very hurt and sad

4)Female cousin does same incident crying my husband slammed door in her face again…tells dad, Dad threatens again

5) i find out i am pregnant with first child, Now all the sudden my moms whole family is nice to us just because i am pregnant…

6) My mom leaves message on grandmothers answering machine while i am visiting her at her house, I overhear the message on the machine, She says hi mom is me i wanted to talk to you about Danielle being pregnant i think its bad she is going to be an unfit mother etc….(All along she has been begging me to be in the room when i deliver) Don’t thnk so not after that husband tells her off on the phone nigh i go into labor

7)I had been trying to be friends with this female cousin, Yet everytime i asked her to hang out she would blow me off and come up with some lame excuse, Tryed talking to her about it she blew up on me, Telling me my whole marriage is fake, Telling me i should not reproduce another child with my husband, Tells me my husband brainwashes me etc….

8) My female cousin and sister n law became best friends since she came here with my brother from the phillapines and have been causing nothing but problems with me from day one…No matter how hard i tried to mend things with them, Then sister n law tries to act all innocent like she never did anything to me telling my family she does not hate me she just does not want to get in between me and my cousins fighting…If she liked me then why does she always hang out with my cousin and not me and make up excuses whenever i ask her to hang out?

9)One of my Brothers had been living with me and my husband in a one bedroom one floor condo, We took him in when husband was layed off for 3 months…I was not working cause i am a stay at home mom of my then 2 year old…So my husband paid my brothers way for 6 whole months…My Brother never paid him back…My brother also promised before he moved in that he would help around the house…he did for awhile but it would never stick….Me and my husband never had privacy to ourselves to get intimate or just have time alone…because Me and my husband and brother all slept in the living room..and my daughter had our old bedroom…and we had no babysitter cause we dont trust anyone in my family and his parents are always working and so is his sister and we dont trust anyone else to watch her…We could not afford to keep my brother here anymore and it was also killing our marriage so we decided to ask him to move out….I was bashed by my sister n law and cousin for this. They called me a disgusting person, They also said family does not do this to family…I tried to explain the situation but they didnt want to hear me out….

10) that was the last straw for me they all have gotten me so stressed and mad and upset that i could not take anymore it was affecting my health…i started to get anxiety over it..crying almost every night at wondering how my family could treat me so awful…so i decided to tell off certain members via facebook…Privatly…so i told them without being mean or swearing…I said i have had enough crying stress and anger…you want to treat me so badly not anymore…You could care less if i die…so i am done…Don’t talk to me if you see me..dont even wave at me…. and i deleted them off my facebook….Well since i did not block them i could see what they post on thier facebooks still and my female cousin…Publically shamed me on her facebook wall…Saying i was psychotic and that i need therapy, Saying that i should stop crying poor and stop sucking up to my grandmother for money, Saying that i should not have another child because i cant afford it, And saying she is better off without me and does not want to be associated with anyone who knows me then she says good riddance….

Fact of the matter is i have been hurt by those certain people for years on end…And no one ever seems to hear my side of the story they always take her word over mine…Even my own mother after she saw that comment from my cousin did nothing…she told me to just ignore it…How can you ignore something that was publically said about you that all your friends can see? that is not even true?

And let me just clear up something…That female cousin of mine we were very close when we were younger i mean we would have fights here and there but nothing serious, Until i met my husband…
ever since then she has been out to get me…One time i had her blocked from my facebook but we have mutual friends and i had a blog that i would vent in mostly about her and the family issues i have and her friends would see it and tell her…Its like she had people watching my every move…And also let me clear up about the major differences between me and her lifestyles…I grew up in a poor family my dad for some unknown reason never wanted to work…My mom always worked in factories and had four kids and a husband to feed…My grandmother helped us out a whole lot….I was constantly moving cause my mom had a hard time paying for bills….My cousin on the other hand…Grew up with not rich but succesful parents who would buy her whatever her little heart pleased her and her younger brother were beyond spoiled even my grandmother would say it…Well anyways i moved out of my house at 18 with my boyfriend now husband….I worked various part time jobs…never could afford a vehicle though cause me and my husband owned our condo we payed a mortgage his car insurance and all the other bills on top of that…i also never attended college because my parents could never afford to send me and my grades were not the best….so i just lived with my husband we owned our own condo he had his own vehicle i was working….and my female cousin on the other hand would costantly jump from guy to guy…she could never keep a serious relationship her longest one was two years….she lived with her parents for like ever they bought her a car pay her car insurance her cell phone and give her money to go out and what not…she enlisted in the airforce so her parents told her she can spend her college money on whatever she wanted…she blew all of it…she was in the airforce for less then a year because she threatened to kill herself over some guy and was carrying a gun that she was gonna use to do so they caught her and kicked her out with dishonorable discharge…that was kept a secret from the family though…So she comes home does not work for four years…she attends college again because she gets money from the airforce to go to college….while in college she didnt work either….now that she graduated college at 26 she finally landed a job as a state police dispatcher…but still lives at home with her parents…And still does not have a boyfriend or serious relationship…. I am Now married have been for four years…I had a baby who is now three years old …still living in our condo…that we own…husband still has his vehicle i stay at home and take care of my daughter…and we plan on purchasing a house next summer….We don’t borrow money from anyone in the family never asked for a penny…we do everything on our own…My eldest brother and sister n law though they always are asking for money from my grandmother she bought my brother all new tires for his vehicle….gives him money for bills and such…and my brother was also in the service was in there for 8 years he blew all the money he got from the service before he moved here…He had to live with my uncle who gave him my other cousins car…Yet here are me and my husband who never asked for a dime..do everything on our own…own our own place…and we are the ones who are being ridiculed? And why is it that i feel bad for disowning a family who treats me like that? Why do i feel bad? Why do i keep caring even though they treat me like crap for years? I feel mostly bad for my daughter cause all she has is me and her father and grandmother and great grandmother…and one uncle….So now instead of spending christmas and her birthday with a huge family she will only be spending it with me and my husband and possibly her great grandmother and grandmother and uncle… i dont know what to do i torture myself every night asking myself what did i do wrong…do i deserve this? Am i wrong for disowning my family? The questions are never ending now i know why i cant sleep at night…i am driving myself crazy i am emotionally scarred by this and none of them care…i was so down…i thought of suicide…but my husband has been helping me….can anybody give me some feedback on this i want to know what you all think of my situation

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