Posted by anonymous_person on 2015/04/15 under Uncategorized This is probably something that many of you struggle with.But I happen to be the most socially awkward person you’ll ever meet. Like, it didn’t use to be as bad, but as time went by it seems to be getting worse.All my friends get all sappy with each other and I’m just sitting there avoiding eye contact.
I feel embarrassed just by saying ‘Thank you!’ to someone. And every time I try to overcome this habit, I feel like such a fake. So, all my friends are all transforming into these beautiful, popular, emotional creatures, they all have each other. I’m starting to feel left out. Like I don’t belong in anyone’s group.
I want to belong, that’s not the problem. I’m not anti social or anything, just scared. I have no best friends cause I’m not able to play the role of a sympathetic, caring, therapist of a best friend everyone looks for. So as all my friends become each others friend, I’m left behind.
And I really don’t know what to do. I’ve tried changing, really I have but I want to be able to accept myself. I can’t do that if I’m acting as a fake. i just feel so damn confused. It’s getting worse. Please help.
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In my opinion, first you need to question yourself what kind of person you really are inside you. Are you inner social but due to shyness it makes you aren’t able to talk? Before you want to interact yourself with others. You need to be sure about who you are. If what you really are is not what you want! It’s time to think about how you want yourself to be. If you want to be involved with them, then questioning yourself why you always seek for loneliness? Get rid of those problem. I know, those problem are mostly related all about your courage and brave to say out your first word. It can be simply as “hey how is it going? How was your weekend? Or asking about school work, I am pretty sure you have lots of things to discuss about those mysterious lessons. Secondly, If you are not good in explain your ideas or opinion In a conversation, you can keep questioning about what they tell you. Being a good communicator also means a good listener.
If you are reading this, now you need to build your confidence to talk. It is not they dun wanna talk to you, it’s because u keep distancing yourself. So get up and show them who U really are.
What kind of person am I really? Honestly, I’m highly emotional. I cry easily, I get hurt by senseless jokes, I tear up on sad movies. The normal. I’m just too embarrassed to show these feelings.I’m ’emotionless’ according to them.
So, I’m not what I want to be. Because I don’t want to be emotionless.
And I have in fact tried that small talk. It works, but its never enough to actually make a good friend. So, I have a wide range of friends. Distant friends. None of which I can actually talk to, you know? Share your feelings, laugh with, goof around all that crazy best friend stuff.It feels as if they all have each other and I’m just there. As if, if I were just to disappear one day, nobody would notice. All I want is to be a somebody. If not popular, just somebody.
Bestfriend is really hard to find tbh. It need to be someone who have mutual interest with you, similar personality trait, so that you can have a long day talk without getting bored. So you have to looking for someone in your school who may similar to you so that you guys can stick together. Personally, I am a person who normally dont express my feeling, like in highschool, my fri tells me random stuff abt their crazy love, family or their sadness. But I never share them any thing unhappy because that’s just me and im actually comfortable with who I am. Sometimes its hard to accept all the pressure that happening, I find somewhere to have a big cry and build up myself again. I actually have a bestfriend, only one, but too many random fri.
hey.I’m a shy guy too.For me it takes time to get to know the other person.So thats probably it.or perhaps you’re a bit scared that they might judge you?
Because if its the later case,then you need to filter them out.To be honest,being in a group isn’t that great. i’ve been on and off groups and i prefer with just a few.
Your emotional,its no big deal.I know tons of poeple who are.I am too.it’s ok to be emotional.
I’ve had a lot of friends too.But there was a time when i had no one.That was when i was under depression.This lasted for 4 years.
I noticed that people wanted to not hang around with me because i was giving off a negative vibe.i know it sounds crazy but i kinda felt it.
Until my cousin slapped me in the face and was like,”dude,wtf is wrong with you? This isn’t you.I can tell your not happy because you choose not to be and whether you get it or no,people can “feel” that.”
AND SOMEWHERE A BELL WAS STRUCK.maybe,i had to change how i saw myself.so whenever i was with a group of people,i used to get away for a bit and find a mirror.and then slowly i begin to realize that i was acting weird because i wasn’t confident in my own shoes.
To get over it,i started writing down the things that made me happy.whatever it was,food,songs,movies,things i did.
and then whenever i felt down,i’d go and read those things and imagine it again.
and it became a part of me.it felt like me.
well,i’m not saying its going to work a hundred percent for you,but its worth a shot right?
Good luck,i hope you have a few friends,but real good ones 🙂