Why do I have to be the one to wait? He has E.D. and he tells me that he needs time to deal with it. He needs to have a few wins to build up his confidence. How do I help by having sex when he feels he can regardless of whether I am or am not in the mood. He is the one who caused this by sexting his co-workers and getting caught! Yes he's sorry and isn't doing it anymore, that I know of, but yet I am the one being punished. Being told to do this or that to make him feel better. What about me!? Who will make me feel better. He needs more affection so I give it to him but I don't get what I need which is intimacy. His goal is to get it up, get it in, and finish. My goal is to work up to it, get excited, get in the mood. Why is this so hard? I am so resentful.