How am I actually in control?
Do I need control?
Is this meaningful?
Is this productive on becoming a better me?
If you are reacting to someone’s actions you are then not in control. You have lost control of how you want to act or how you would act normally. Change this behavior by doing the only thing you can and do have control over… control you. Control the emotions that you feel, control your reaction to the person or situation, and control your actions. You honestly don’t have any control over anything in life except for how you feel and react. To help you determine if you are acting or reacting in a productive way ask yourself, “are these though(s) meaningful or going to benefit me in some way?”. If you like the answer to this self talk then by all means allow yourself to control your actions and emotions. We should all aim and focus on becoming better individuals. With that being said the energy and effort that you release should be directed in a, how can I become a better person then who I was yesterday?. This can be baby steps or large strides. Just keep on focusing on you!
Not the negatives, not the things you can’t change, not where you came from but how far you’ve come, what positive outcomes have you created in your life so far, what goals or upward try amps do you want to over come or accomplish. Realize how far you’ve gone. Accept the past because it made you stronger but let go enough to become better.
This has taken me 32 years to work on and I still have a lot of room for improvement but I don’t let myself stop striving to become a better me. At times I become sidetracked of what’s important and how far I’ve come. I then get over that spiral and continue with my own plans. I may not be in control but I will not let others control my emotions or actions. I’ll try to work on myself and become the person that I’m proud of. There’s no satisfaction then the overall pleasure of knowing who you are and who you want to become.
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