If you know that your friend is intoxicated and you let them drive, and you sit in the passenger seat, are you too drunk or high? who is really responsible with what happens with you? There's a little bit of responsibility within each of us. So even though so and so did this and that and it's obvious, we each also have choices and part in it. Would you still sit in the car? Would you even let them take the keys to the car? What would you risk if you all just hung out at the parking lot few more hours, maybe chilled by the water. Maybe walked to the nearest restaurant and had a greasy hot dog from Coney Island. Maybe called another friend, maybe made arrangements, so that someone else can come bring the car back later. Maybe maybe maybe it's too late. Maybe you just didn't want to take the blame, maybe we don't see but the hindsight is always 20/20.