My 14 year old daughter stopped listening to me a few months ago, ( last December, to be precise ) and I’ve noticed some drugs and an empty bottle of alcohol under her bed, which I was devastated at spotting. I decided not to say anything even though I’ve been burning inside, but before I even got the chance to sit her down and talk to her, I realised that it was too late for her to listen. A week ago, her ‘friend’ came over to ‘have a sleepover’ which I wasn’t too pleased at. For you to know, the friend was a male, so I did get a bit suspicious. But before I could tuck them in, like I always used to do with my daughter, I spotted them having sex there and then! I was paranoid, but I couldn’t interrupt them. I was absolutely speechless. Yes, my daughter has been a bad girl lately but I never expected her to do something like that without permission. I’m starting to think that she wants me to know that I have nothing to do with her anymore, and that I can’t boss her around anymore because she left her door wide open when they made out. Of course, I couldn’t say anything to her. And she wouldn’t say anything to me, as usual. But this morning, when I asked her about what she was up to, my own daughter threw her glass of fresh orange juice on the floor and walked out the door! What is going on with her? She hasn’t acted like this in ages and I just thought we were making up! When she was 12, she was the best daughter I’d ever imagined, and I thought it would stay that way. Not until her father and I divorced last year. Everything changed. My daughter Kayla stopped talking to me all at once. Now she’s influencing her little 10 year old sister Maggie, who has started to disrespect me and blame me for divorcing her father. Now both my girls have thrown me out of their hearts and no one else is there to blame but me. Maybe I haven’t raised them the right way? I don’t know. All of our lives are all messed up. And I don’t know what Kayla will do with her baby. Please help me or give me advice on what to say to my daughters. I can’t sit them down to have a single decent talk with them!
Thanks,
Rosa