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Posted by on 2021/06/27 under Life

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-mysteries-love/201803/it-s-thin-line-between-love-and-hate

Just a random someone walking by but unable to be here. Okay, glad to hear you don’t but here this.

Hate doesn’t mean love. F***, you think you’d be happy…..

“That Thin Line

The Persuaders were not, in fact, singing about hating and loving a person at the same time, but about love turning to hate. When lead singer Douglas “Smokey” Scott laid those vocals down, it was because his woman had sliced him up like cold cuts after he had stepped all over her night after night. Suddenly, her love turned to hate.

This doesn’t just happen in hit songs and Hollywood movies. Love can turn to hate in a matter of minutes. This makes a lot of sense when we look at how the brain processes love and hate. Zeki & Romaya (2008) looked at people's brains while viewing images of the faces of people they either loved or hated. The results revealed that some of the same brain areas were activated in the two conditions. One of those areas is the insular — a brain region that determines the intensity of an emotion and how strongly we take it to be associated with what we perceive (in this case, the person). The insular does not determine whether the emotion is positive or negative.

Hate and love thus both seem to be involved in the neural processing of what is sometimes referred to as the arousal effect of emotion (this is a technical term, so arousal can be negative). It seems that an emotion with a high arousal effect can quickly turn from positive (love) to negative (hate).

That thin line will send us downhill again and again. We hardly ever see it coming. Intense love can seem so lasting and forever that it’s almost surrealistic when we realize how quickly it can turn into hate.”

References

Brogaard, B. (2017). "The Rise and Fall of the Romantic Ideal," In R. Grossi & D. West (eds.), The Radicalism of Romantic Love: Critical Perspectives (pp. 47-63). Taylor and Francis.

Zeki S, Romaya JP (2008). “Neural Correlates of Hate”, PLoS ONE 3: e3556

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