I recently spoke to a girl about having feelings for her, she said she had feelings for me too but we didn’t want to rush into anything too soon, we text everyday and when I see her she’s all cuddly and touchy but she went out clubbing with her ex on Thursday and hasn’t really spoken to me since, I understand that she might get back with her ex, but the way he treated her just wasn’t nice, im not sure what the hell im supposed to do other than see how she is tomorrow in person, should I text her, should I leave her alone? I don’t know.
Hmm I would talk to her if I were you. Don’t ask her about what is happening with her ex, just ask her what’s going on. Or you could give it some time and space and see if she approaches you on her own or talks to you a lot.
Whatever happens, I think it’s a good idea to decide to do whatever is best for you. You don’t have to do anything that makes you feel vulnerable, you don’t have to chase her. Sometimes it’s easier for people to get back together with their ex than to try something new cuz it scares the crap out of them. Sometimes when they get all flirty with someone new, like yourself, they aren’t really thinking about the consequences of their actions. They’re in a sex withdrawal cycle and need intimacy, so they end up jerking good guys like you around just to feel better about themselves.
You say she hasn’t talked to you? Well if I was you I’d say f*** it and just find the most fun thing you can think of to do and get your mind off this girl. There’s no reason to sit around and feel powerless–think about it, if there really was something you could do, you’d know what it was, right? Like when you have to take a dump, you know where that goes and when you need to brush your teeth, that’s pretty easy to figure out, too. What I’m saying is, do what you can do and don’t worry about the rest of it. If I had to guess you want this girl to be a positive in your life, and not a pain in the butt.
You can’t make your dreams become reality, but you can enjoy it when your dreams and reality happen to turn out the same way.